Divorce....

Ok...don't panic for the 3 people who read my blog...I'm not getting a divorce it is just a example of something that my sponsor put in terms for me. I am going through somewhat of a divorce with an issue. It's like a marriage splitting up and the wife keeping her ring. Why...to remember what it stood for, when the times were good...it's all part of the fairytale ending. Can I give up and throw away my "ring" and move on? With my issue there is not a fairytale ending. It's got to be over, done with, finished -- but can I really do that? I feel so attached even in a bad relationship that I think about the object and it is not just an object or is it?