thoughts bouncing around my head...

Had a wise old man (well he is not that old but wisdom sounds better when you say old man) shared a bit of information with me yesterday that I've been thinking about all night.

Distorted thinking:

1. awfulism
2. all or none

Visual aids:

1. In every situtation lately that I've had I'm looking and dwelling on the worse case outcome. It takes me longer to figure out that it's not as bad as I imagined it to be or there are things happening that are good.

2. I'm still struggling with this concept because I don't see the gray shades of things. Shouldn't it be either black or white. So I'm still pondering this part. [edit addition] After thinking about this and all...I do see all my life I've had the all or nothing attitude. With singing, if it didn't feel right, I didn't sing (all or nothing); if it were sports, I wasn't good enough, I managed; My mom sewing, too hard to compete with her so I didn't want to learn to sew; If people didn't like me, I tried all I could to get them to like me...failing in the end! Now I'm doing it was counseling...it's all or nothing is going to work...I don' t see true progress so why should I keep trying? Will I ever be resonably happy again? It's all or nothing. How do you get to the point where you can see the shades of gray in every situtation? Is the glass half empty or half full?